Most of August we spent preparing for the
arrival of my sister Suzanne and her family.
While going through the stresses of my mom’s illness, she and I dreamed
of a time when we would all live in Spain in a palace next to a castle as a big
communal family. Now that dream was
coming true.
We’d practiced communal living in Los
Angeles and were convinced that sharing common Spanish space—kitchen, living
room, pool and patio—would be easy compared to the gyrations we went through in
LA (moving from the Valley Spring house to the Clybourn house and back, ongoing
hospital stays, and the need to change at a moment’s notice). So my sister and her husband Ethan packed up
14 big Home Depot boxes with stuff needed for a year’s stay and mailed them off
to us while we searched for a palace.
Turns out we found it right in our own
building. The architect-owner of our palacio
is currently working mostly up in Madrid during the ongoing financial Spanish
crisis, and he agreed to rent us his offices.
So we began furnishing this gorgeous space with Rota Yard Sale and
thrift shop finds.
And on the 19th of August, they
arrived! My sister is here! We are a big extended family living in Spain
in a palace! We have a whole year to
explore Europe and live as a commune!
My sister’s arrival is a form of healing in
the aftermath of grief and loss following my mom’s death. Being in Spain, with the excitement of a new
culture, the challenge of a new language, and the welcoming hospitality of
friends, has been a balm to me, and now I could extend it to my sister. Suzi had been at the epicenter of my mom’s
illness, coordinating her medical care in Los Angeles, and while we all
returned to our lives far from this center, she stayed in LA, surrounded with
the painful bittersweet memories of those intense eight months and left to pick
up the pieces.
And Suzi, being who she is, leapt right
into being Spanish, insisting on conversational Spanish at dinnertime, agreeing
to attend a bullfight, making friends with the owner of a fancy sherry bodega,
and clicking away with her camera to capture this new life.
El Puerto de Santa Maria at sunset |
Toro and Tio Pepe greet you as you come into El Puerto |
Our little castle next door |
After we hit Aqualand (Aqua-fresh-land-ia
to my nephew Ado) to overcome their jetlag, we planned our long-delayed trip to
Northern Spain. Our friends Sharon and
Gidon own a beautiful farmhouse in the countryside of Cantabria which we had
rented last summer but never saw due to our emergency trip to California. Now we were on our way in a seven-seater
Euro-van, traversing the sunlit Spanish mesas as we’d planned so long ago. First stop:
Salamanca.
This was Suzi’s idea, and the sandstone
beauty of this medieval university town made it thoroughly worthwhile. Our little pension Los Angeles was on the
Plaza Mayor, and we wandered the cobblestone streets for an evening and a
morning before heading north.
The farmhouse was even lovelier than the
charming website depicted, and we settled into two days of craggy Northern
beach surf days before the famous rains set in.
Tia and Sasha learned to surf the
gentle Atlantic waves, while Griffin and Ado tore it up on the boogey boards. We walked the 40 minutes to the beach through
rolling fields and farmland dotted with black-and-white milk cows.
Surfer girls |
Sure enough, the skies clouded and the
temperature dropped 20 degrees; we were glad we’d brought long sleeves, pants,
and jackets. But the rainy weather
didn’t stop us from visiting the beautiful little town of Santillander Del Mar (narrowly
avoiding a thunderstorm) nor the deliciousness of Casa Poli, a sidreria (ciderhouse) just across the
border in Asturias. The area is also
famous for its spectacular caves; we hit El Soplao and marveled at the crystal
formations.
But perhaps the best part of the vacation
was the luxury of sharing an ancient farmhouse in the middle of cowfields,
apple orchards, and corn patches. We
wandered the gravel paths, meandering, picking blackberries, and meeting the
neighbors, the kids getting their first experiences with stinging nettles (all
part of the bargain). Now the trick will
be to get my sister Simone here—soon!!